GoRelative lacks a) a findexisting option and also b) and c)

There is no help-file entry because GoRelative is not part of the standard Opus install. It's a script you got and installed from the forum. The documentation is in the thread you got it from:

It can't open new tabs, so a FindExisting switch doesn't make sense to me. But since it's a script, you can edit it if you want it to work differently.